Thursday, July 28th, 2005 at
10:59 am
‘Finally, all of you should be of one mind, full of sympathy toward each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds.’
The key verse for bible study tonight with Squaretable group left me in thoughts. We discussed delicate and primary issues, around the S-factor per say. I was more in tune with my present happening through the day that compels me to write now.
Tolerance was the main idea tonight, to tolerate one another. Difficult? YES, very!
I struggle coming to see eye to eye with some people, and much less grace is given, probably with people you’re close to at times i.e. family.
One of the questions tonight were, is it possible to live in harmony with one another? My response; well, it would be if the frequency wasn’t as much. I figured the more you see that person, you’ll find out and learn more about little antics and potentially the dislikes right? Following up question, then is it possible to have fake unity vs. genuine unity? My answer was yes, and both circumstances vary.
I think the equation for tolerance is this:-
Honesty + Kindness = Tolerance
I guess one is able to tolerate a person by being honest about the fact that there is something which you’re dissatisfied with. I can be honest and still be cruel. On the flipside, I can also show acts of kindness whilst tolerating an issue. But with just kindness alone, I may not be entirely righteous with my actions and may be soft in just letting them pass by.
My point is, tolerance requires both factors to succeed. You need to be honest and kind, it’s a pair and works hand in hand. One can’t outshine the other, and one can’t be without the other. Many a times, I think we fail to add both to the equation. We just babble and avoid the issue. Which isn’t right I guess, for me at least.
It takes maturity, I’m still learning myself. Sometimes its easier with people you’re less familiar with.
My problem is that when I am aggitated/angry/pissed/geram….I fail to relent in a christ-like way. I harbor the feeling and emotion till it hits a boiling point. I know, it’s bad. I am admitting such a mark in my characteristic. I am trying to change, prayer I guess.
This year has been a year of wait, to wait on everything, the Lord, the life, the work etc.
God says, just wait. Please wait. Be patient.
So simple, yet so painful that it hits me right on target.
::I need to humble my mumble….